A Guide to Get Her Back
Now, once you’ve thought long and hard about what exactly went wrong, it’s time to get your girl back and with a lot of work and a sweet gesture that will make her believe you mean it, whether it be to change yourself, regain her trust or simply just putting in the effort to keep your relationship healthy, as well as her interested, we’ve got you covered with this one.
It’s all about how she feels, not you.
There goes the pride flag once again. Put it away, son…
If you’re serious about rekindling things, it’s time to get massively real about a few things. Whether you broke up with her or she fell out of love with you, you have to put in the effort which will allow her a reason to get back together with you. The first thing you should do is acknowledge your mistakes and laying it all on the table, which means apologizing and expressing the regret of losing her.
This serves as an act of reconciliation which will open a window for her to think about everything you said and whether or not she can trust you enough to believe that you meant it. This will also allow her a space to question her own feelings for you.
Show that you care, but not too much and maintain a distance.
Women are thinkers and once you’ve apologized and given her a reason to reflect about her feelings towards you, as well as the idea to get back together with you, you need to allow her the necessary space to think about everything.
Be sure not to get it wrong. Don’t allow for too much space as this might make her question whether, or not, you meant what you said. Allow her a little space, but not too much and don’t play games with her. Women hate games.
Don’t message her too much and don’t stop by her house with a lot of gifts, although one bouquet of flowers won’t hurt.
Work on yourself first.
You might not know this, but once you apologize, you’re up for an assessment and she won’t tell you about it. During the assessment she’ll be judging you and whether or not you’re living up to your apology, as well as how you handle the time apart.
Work on yourself, mentally, physically and emotionally and allow for the space to grow.Act normal and show her that life would be great with her in it and that you’re strong enough to be an individual on your own, as well as with her.
Keep her wondering how and what you’re doing without her. This will raise the question whether you’re dating someone else and make her think even more about whether she wants you back, or not.
Don’t get intimate with her.
Women are wired with emotions, thoughts and a whole lot of reasons they create and come up with for everything. Men are the opposite, we’re not saying you don’t have feelings, but ask yourself, is it lust or love? In most cases, lust seems to be a bigger priority for men than feelings. That’s just how men and women are wired differently. We’re not saying your heartless, but “he’s a man” is a statement that all women understand.
Thinking about things like sex or actually trying to get with her while your broken up or trying to rekindle your relationship will just make things worse and possibly give her the wrong idea. Women aren’t wired that way, so if you’ve thought about it, don’t. Pay attention to her feelings first.
Don’t turn to other girls
Back to the “he’s a man” statement. Just because you aren’t getting it from the girl of your dreams, does not mean you should be trying to find it anywhere elsewhere. Let’s be really clear about this one. This is the best way to mess the entire situation up and lose her for good,
While it’s fine to go on dates with other women because you broke up, it’s not a good idea to complicate things with other women if you’ve still got feelings for your ex because newsflash… To all women, it’s never just sex.
Is she giving you signs?
Perhaps the questions should be, is she calling or texting you? Does she express just how much she really miss or loves you? Does she show signs of jealousy towards other women showing interest towards you? I mean, these signs speak for themselves. Well done.
Before trying again, prove to her that you’re capable of change.
Probably one of the most important steps. A girl wants to hear and see that a guy has changed for the better and want to work towards maintaining the best relationship possible. Another important factor is trust. If you show her that you want to change and work harder on fixing your relationship, she’ll take you back in a heartbeat.
The problem with most relationships is the fact that either one or both people stop considering the other person. This is also the case when it comes to most marriages. You don’t want to be the reason a good thing didn’t work out or could possibly not work out the second time.
So, tell her you to love her every day and be sure to prove it to her on a regular basis. If you know her well, which you should, be wary of the things that will let her down and work hard towards not ever doing that. If you do, learn and make it up to her.
A woman is like the ocean. She’ll always be there if you want her to be unless you mess up and stop maintaining the waves.
Final Tips to Win Her Heart Back
- Cut the communication element with other girls, if you really want your ex-girlfriend back, it should be easy.
- Get to the gym. Women appreciate men who look after themselves.
- Allow her space to miss you and have her contact you.
- Get new friends. Evaluate your current relationships with your friends and consider why she perhaps didn’t like them.
- Don’t wallow. Be social and let her know you’re strong enough to handle a relationship and not be too sensitive about things.
- Find new hobbies. Stay interesting and make her want you back.
Now, go get your ex-girlfriend back!